Reclining on cane lounges at the Tallow Beach Hotel, Sally Cusack and I took a verbal tour of the parenting terrain…how our children trigger our own childhood emotions, how the moment of our child’s birth transforms us, and… the role of wild animals as doulas!
The show is called Pregnancy, Birth and Beyond. Podcast for all eternity. (the ads are particularly, er… memorable!).
Got something important to do? Don’t do it! Procrastinate. Just sit back and click HERE.
In this lively conversation with Erica Nettle-Chik of ‘Luminous Youth’, we talked about how changes in parenting and education are changing the world, we talked about the first five rites of passage in early childhood development, we talked about how some of our current social and international ills are symptoms of collective childhood wounding, we talked about parenting as social activism and cultural subversion, and we talked about cacao and Earl Gray tea. Sit back, sip your drink of choice, listen and (I hope!) enjoy.
And if you get a moment, I would love to hear your feelings and thoughts about this dialogue. I hope it touches you and inspires you in some way. Salud!
PS: Skype messed with audio and visual briefly a couple of times during the transmission. Don’t worry, it rights itself pretty quick.
Cabo Verde has just now become nation number 40, and the 6th African nation to protect children from being smacked. Two more nations have banned the smack via supreme court ruling, and 45 more nations have committed to prohibition. That is a total of 87 nations that say ‘no more’ to violence in parenting. Almost half the world’s nations! The recognition that hitting achieves nothing is fast becoming the new ‘normal’.
A review of 343 studies, published in the British Journal of Nutrition, found that organic produce is more nutritious, and that conventionally grown food can be four times as likely to contain pesticide residues. Read more about it HERE.
Even though the health benefits are clear, I think there is an even bigger reason to buy and eat organically grown. Conventional agriculture and farming is disastrous for the soil, for water tables, for all of the ecology. Conventional farming, and GMO, are devastating our planet – and with modern, high-yield permaculture, it can be entirely replaced. Smaller land use, clean environment, restored soils, more abundance, end of hunger, far better health!
Every dollar we spend says YES to something. With everything we eat, we can impact the speed of transition to a 100% organically grown food industry.
Despite all the politically-driven, hidden-agenda hype and misinformation, the facts are:
1. The NZ anti-smacking law has reduced hospital admissions for children
2. It has increased the level of reporting of abuse (note how better reporting can be twisted by vested interests to make it sound like ‘things got worse’)
3. Begun to bring about a positive shift in culturally held attitudes towards children
You can see the Unicef report here:
I’m delighted to share this interview with you. I had the huge honor of sitting with the celebrated author Joseph Chilton Pearce in the home he built with his own hands, among the wooded hills of Virginia USA, in December 2013. Joseph is a little frail these days, but sharp, incisive, and a treasure trove of deep insights and unique perspectives on the relationship between child-rearing, human social-evolution, and a planet in crisis. Joe is an elder sage with an urgent message. His extraordinary books have touched the lives of millions, and nudged us all along a little closer towards a new awakening.
So, here we were together, rocking in our chairs, enjoying the setting sun, and gently meandering through a stream of ideas.
I feel immensely privileged to have had this conversation, and thanks to the talents and efforts of my good friends Lisa and Keith Reagan, now this conversation is for everyone.
Here it is! CLICK
Finally, the Ozone hole is showing early signs of thickening – thanks to the sustained, global ban on CFCs. This is a triumph for co-ordinated, global, government-sponsored action. It demonstrates that when governments show the political will to restrain and regulate Big Business, miracles can be accomplished. This great win is hugely encouraging for us to do the same to tackle global warming. CLICK
There are still some who deny the link between fossil fuels and global warming. Some of those deniers are the same paid-for scientists who denied the link between CFCs and ozone depletion, and who also denied the link between second-hand tobacco smoke and lung cancer. Humanity has been terribly hurt by these bank-rolled denial and delay tactics. The way for us to be alert and skeptical; is to always ask who is paying for the denial ‘science’. Follow the money trail, it is easy to trace, with your browser of choice.
But at least this time, human rights and the environment has trumped the vested interests. Our Ozone layer has begun its healing process. Sighs of relief!
…what most parents and practitioners who understand babies have been saying – and yelling from the rooftops! – for a long, long time. Maybe as more science keeps coming in, people will begin to listen. There is nothing OK about walking away from a crying baby. Under controlled crying, a baby might go quiet, but the cortisol levels spike. The baby’s high distress is masked by the behavioral collapse. Read more on the research study HERE.
What this research does not tell you is that when cortisol levels remain high, the cortisol can begin to destroy neurons in the emotional-regulation regions of the child’s brain. Controlled crying is a cultural practice in a few Western nations, and it risks reducing brain matter in the areas related to emotional intelligence.
“Connecting with your Toddler and Child: setting boundaries without punishment, shame or manipulation”
For parents, teachers, health professionals.
Where: Holdsworth Community Centre, Woollhara
When: 7:00PM Wednesday 10th September
Bookings and Enquiries: 9302 3600
FATHERHOOD UNPLUGGED! Supporting new Dads
Discover your special place as a Dad, the unique gifts you bring. Let’s talk about the support you need, and some common challenges and concerns we encounter as fathers in a rapidly changing parenting culture. Join in, bring your questions, and share in a safe environment for Dads, new and experienced. Voice feelings, hopes and dreams, be supported and learn new tools for the journey. The format: John Broadbent, author of ‘Man Unplugged’ will be interviewing me; a live chat, and then we open to questions and interaction.
When: Tuesday 21st October, 7 till 9:30PM
Where: Narrabeen Tramshed Arts & Community Centre
Bookings and Details: www.bit.ly/manunpluggeddads